Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Reflection

Returning home yesterday afternoon after several appointments I looked out my office window to see a ambulance arrive at one of the homes across the street. Rose's sons were waiting at the curb for help and assistance for their mother. Rose, a lovely woman who had mostly become a shut in after her husband passed maybe seven or so years back.  I used to go visit her every few weeks for a few years and then I was hurt and I never really did visit her again.  I remember her telling me that when her husband came home from the hospital after his heart attack, which occurred before they moved into the complex, that the hospital must of sent home the wrong man; except in appearance he was not the same man she had known and lived with for years, his trauma had changed him dramatically.  She was lost and lonely and she told me a number of times that with him gone all she wanted was to die and be with him  I sat and thought of her for quite awhile yesterday and still this morning.  I wish her love and light in whichever path she chooses, to stay or go to her beloved.

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  1. People often move in and out of our lives but our memory of them often clings in corner our mind until it is woken up by a unexpected occurrence.

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    1. It reminds yet again, this life is finite. I realize that I don't want to just wait.

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  2. I heard this a lot from my over age 80 customers in the beauty salon. Not only is their spouse gone, but also most of their contemporaries. I had a neighbor next door that asked me if I'd shoot her.

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    1. My Father also asked me to shoot him as his time neared to leave the Planet. Crazy isn't it. My sister and I both recently revealed we have a bunch of muscle relaxers stored for the time we decide enough if is enough.

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  3. I thought my MIL might be like that, after she spent 20 years caring for her disabled husband. But she found life after his death in playing bridge and with her many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I really like these cards!

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    1. I tried to encourage and I know her children did and they spent time with her. Still after a few years she quit even sitting out on her porch. She was marking time until it was her time.

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  4. My granny was on her own for 25 years. When she was diagnosed with cancer in her late eighties it was like she'd woken up. She wanted to go out every day and wear all her best clothes.

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